Re: [Harp-L] temporay lost mojo mormal

[Bill Hines <billhines4@xxxxxxxxx>]

Abner,

I went through all of this too. People are going to be mean, that's just
part of the deal. Don't let it affect you, brush it off your shoulder. have
the courage to go up to them and ask what you did wrong. if they are being
an ass to you because you weren't up to their professional standards ask if
they weren't once learning also, or they were always Stevie Ray Vaughn from
birth?

they probably got treated like that too and now using their chance to give
it back. but really be strong enough to seek out the opinions and factor out
any hateful stuff and judge whether it's good input and use it to improve.
you get a lot of scars on the path to being a musician, that's just the way
it is. i've found they can be more brutal than in sports, which was shocking
to me. in many cases due to booze/drugs involved.

but if it's an open jam, you have a *right* to be up there and work on it
and improve. record yourself and use that to measure your progress and judge
for yourself.  try to get in the early sets before the self-perceived hot
shots get up there, they are into posing many times and don't want anyone
messing up their sets (um, it's a jam dude, if you have to go here to stroke
your ego you have issues as well).

Bill Hines

On Fri, Apr 24, 2009 at 8:00 AM, Abner Galdos <cdgaldos@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>wrote:

> I want to thank everyone here who wrote such great things to help me see
> this in a different light.
>
> One other situation I neglected to mention.
>
> As I was on stage playing one of the guys that was playing the guitar
> with me took my mic from me..
> I'm new to this whole thing so I found it odd but dropped it...
> after a few songs I walked off the stage the guys stayed on.  The lead
> singer a girl that runs the open mic had gone up to them and told them
> that they had to  give others in the bar a turn....( the lead singer and
> her husband both like me and she is the one that first asked me to come
> up and play with them).  As one of the player walked passed me he told
> me they were kicked off the stage ??????
>
> There is this other guy who used to play the sax's  but brings his harps
> ( his been transfer teaching himself how to play the harp, if that makes
> any sense) and he is good. I'm not saying he is a good harp player but
> he has the understanding and has good sound.  The last time I had played
> he told me he was proud of me, and I did real well.  Well any way he has
> this electric guitar with him and the guy that was on stage with me that
> took my mic away had a little spat.  So the guy that went up with the
> electric guitar played the "Blues" and the placed loved it...
> It just seem to me that whole night was not fun, ego's were high.  mine
> was low....
>
> But I will go back, I will practice and I will play... I have always
> been asked to play... I'm sure that wont stop....
>
> So.. thank you guys .. I have read and re-read and re-re-read all the
> email over and over and over each time letting me know that everything
> that happen was normal.  is normal.
>
> abner (Blueyes, ABE-normal)
>
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