RE: [Harp-L] New topic: Why do people act like jerks on forums?

[Buck Worley <boogalloo@xxxxxxx>]

Matthew-
 
It's because some of us ARE jerks..... just kidding... I can relate to what you have stated and have had a couple of unpleasant experiences with folks myself. Sometimes I speak my mind when I should keep my pie-hole shut. There are some folks that seem too eager to jump in and "snipe" someone's comment(s) but I think the majority of the posters are OK in my book. Also, one never knows what is going on in someone else's life on a given day and they might put stuff out here when they may be just having a bad day and need to vent a little bit.
 
This will probably get 'gigged' for being a "meta discussion". However you sound like you could use a kind word of encouragement.
 
Don't let it get to ya. Hang in there and have a great day!
 
Sincerely,
Buck
 
> Date: Wed, 6 Apr 2011 12:44:39 -0400
> From: matthewsmart@xxxxxxxxx
> To: harp-l@xxxxxxxxxx
> Subject: [Harp-L] New topic: Why do people act like jerks on forums?
> 
> You know, I have an honest question and I don't care who it offends. Why are
> people so mean on forums? Is it that it empowers them, feeds their ego?
> 
> Example: yesterday I posted on here about making chromatic combs. It was an
> honest question, I didn't know if there was a market for it. I thought of
> posting on Sleidmeister, but their listed policy was very specific on
> vendors. I mentioned on on here, that I was concerned/apprehensive about
> posting on that forum. So I just posted on good ole' harp-l to see what
> people thought. Many of you were nice and gave me your opinions and advice.
> Some assured me that Sleidmeister was ok to post. All good information and
> helpful.
> 
> THEN, I get this long email from some lady (I will not say her name) acting
> as if she was the forum police accusing me of character assassination of the
> guy that runs Sleidmeister and just terrorizing me for an innocent post.
> 
> Why do people do this? Surely they would not treat someone in person that
> way. Are forums an avenue for people to act out their character defects?
> This is why I rarely post because people get their egos all plumped up and
> feel like they have to shout down from the mountain at people when they
> don't like their post. I mean do these people have lives? I know the only
> reason I am posting right now is because I got laid off. Otherwise I woudn't
> be messing with this dribble.
> 
> A few months ago, I posted on Adam Gussow's forum about custom harps and
> making combs and I was so terrorized by people that I suspended my account
> the same day.
> 
> WTF?
> 
> -- 
> Matthew Smart
> matthewsmart@xxxxxxxxx
> 678-851-1434