Re: [Harp-L] psychology of STAGE FRIGHT (was PERSONALITY TYPE)

[Joe and Cass Leone <leone@xxxxxxxx>]

On Feb 9, 2009, at 9:51 AM, IcemanLE@xxxxxxx wrote:

> People seem to put the stress on themselves -

Sometimes the stress is from outside sources oh Prince of all frozen  
liquids. I was humming along quite well when having had a daughter  
born with abiliary atressia and going through all the surgeries,  
knocked me down for about 5 years. Then having a son killed by car  
thief druggies knocked me down again...So now I just sit around  
waiting for the three legged man's third shoe to drop.

> it is out of proportion to  how
> everyone else might perceive the performance. Self-esteem is at the  
> core.
> You really find out that you wrestle with yourself, trying to beat  
> yourself into
>  submission. If one of the two "yous" wrestling gives up the ghost,  
> there is
> no  more wrestling match. Learning which "you" to give up is as  
> important as
> learning the skill to perform. No wrestling match = "I really don't  
> care
> attitude", a healthy approach to performance, as you remove the   
> perceived
> judgmental ears that are surrounding you.

That's the way 'I' do it. I really don't give much of a sh** about  
anything anymore and if I crash and burn, who cares. That's why I  
have walked up to a person and taken a gun off of them. My attitude?  
If they shoot me, they're doing me a favor.

> Here exists the realm  of "There are no
> mistakes". It's fun to perform from this perspective. The  audience  
> will relax
> listening to you, as well.

That's what I want. I want people to listen. relax, and not sweat the  
small stuff. Life is too short.
> sMo-joe