[Harp-L] harp envy

[Dan <billybudd1313@xxxxxxxxx>]

As much fun as it is to regale each other with "hot groupie. . ." stories, I was drawn to the first point of Mike's post.  Great post by the way.  Sorry ladies.  We men are simple animals.  
 
I like to call it: "Novelty Sideman Syndrome"   It's the feeling you get when a band so graciously allows you (read heavy sarcastic tone) to share their stage.  A lot of singer/guitar players are prone to this.  They like the "idea" of a harp player, but not completely.  
 
You get invited on the gig, but you get placed in the back.  You basically have to stand there bored waiting to be thrown a solo here and there, but often times they won't turn down or otherwise support you.  Also, these guys choose tunes to which harmonica doesn't add much.  (you can argue this point if you'd like.  I simply feel that it's good not to put harp on every tune in the world).
 
In a broad sense, I think both parties are partially responsible for this sort of 'second class citizen' treatment.  On the one hand, most non harp players don't have much of a clue about the instrument and what constitutes good or bad harping. On the other hand, the harp player accepts a diminished role, or is simply "just happy to be there"
 
Ladies and Gentlemen, you have to OWN IT.  
 
First and foremost Know your abilities, and know your own limitations.  If you don't have the guts to record yourself, then ask a player you admire.  Become aware of your abilities.
 
Second.  Add to those abilities.  Singing is a huge skill that can be learned and improved.  To many people "just a harp" isn't worth splitting the money for.  It's a peripheral instrument.  Make yourself a central person.   Also, learn to communicate better with the guitarists.  The more musical you can be, the more respect you will earn.  
 
Third,  believe in yourself.  If you allow yourself (either by lack of confidence or lack of chops/knowledge) to be marginalized/walked on/placed off stage, then you will always be treated that way.  And if they do try it, steal the show on em.  Step up and Blow.
 
MIke, I'm glad you got to dance with the chicks, but man, you need to set those cats in your band straight.  Either you're with em or you're not.  Don't be the tag-along little brother.  
 
Don't be the "Novelty Sideman"
 
 
d. gage
 
 
 
 Many harp players don't communicate with guitar players in a musical way they are used to.  i.e.